Republished from the October 2006 issue of my newsletter: Happy Halloween! We may no longer be afraid of the ghosts and goblins that scared us as children, but what about the ghosts of our pasts …
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You Have to Create the Partnership You Want
Not everyone understands or appreciates mutuality in relationships. The experiences of some people have caused them to believe they have to take from you before you take from them. Others are trying …
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The Three Best Ways to Stay Out of Court
My goal is to keep you out of court and build your conflict resolution skills, in part because court is a miserable place. Highly-educated, competitive people will often make your case about …
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Are Your Employee Policies Updated for Paid Family Leave?
Last year, New York State's ("NYS") Paid Family Leave ("PFL") laws took effect, offering employees to apply for insurance benefits to cover time off to: Bond with a child (e.g., newborn, …
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What Are My Risks with Domestic Employment?
Domestic Employment includes elderly companions, home health aides, housekeepers, and nannies. Depending on the number of hours they work for you, whether they live in your home, and whether they are …
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Why Does National Women’s Equality Day Matter?
Each year, on this date, the United States celebrates the adoption of the 19th Amendment to the United States Constitution, which was passed in 1920, (between the births of my mother and her older …
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How Employers Can Inspire Flexibility and Autonomy
Rules can only go so far, and there might be a human tendency to resist “rules” because they seem like limitations more than helpful guidance. Instead of writing voluminous rule books (like lawyers …
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Three Ways to Balance Fit and Inclusion When Hiring
On Tuesday, I recorded an 18-minute talk for the American Bar Association's (ABA) Relational Practices Telesummit. In the talk, I apply my Third Ear Conflict Resolution process to implicit bias. That …
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We’ve All Been Hurt by Racism
I've been hurt by racism, too. My experiences might have been different from yours. But they are valid, too. I didn't understand why people made me feel bad about my new friend. I almost …
The Magic Solution for Workplace Conflicts
Workplace conflicts come in a variety of forms. Most of them are resolvable. In 2008, a hazardous waste situation occurred at a high school on Long Island, New York. According to one journalist's …
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