In the wake of recent tragic events, the need for peace and conflict resolution has never been more apparent. Our world is marred by violence and conflict, from mass shootings to workplace disputes. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed and unsure of how to make a positive impact. I often feel the same ways. Fortunately, my 20+ years as a holistic employment attorney and mediator has taught me that we all have the power to create the peace we want to see.
It’s true that every little bit helps. Give what you can today. Then do it again tomorrow, the next day, the next day, and so on.
Making the Seven Choices has also been helpful to many people.
1. Forgive yourself for having conflicts.
Conflict is a natural part of life, and it comes in many forms, including disagreements about gun laws, war, who is to blame, and our daily priorities. It’s essential to forgive yourself for having conflicts and to recognize that they can be opportunities for growth. Embrace conflict as a chance to become a more powerful person with a greater role in this world.
2. Acknowledge yourself for taking action.
Taking action to resolve conflicts, whether in your personal life or your workplace, is a commendable step. Don’t judge whether your actions are big or small; any effort to make a change is valuable. Your intention to create a better world and benefit others is a powerful driving force.
3. Forgive the world for having and creating conflicts.
While it’s challenging to understand the world’s penchant for violence and conflict, it’s crucial to let go of anger and focus on finding ways to contribute positively. Rather than cursing the world as it is, look for opportunities to work within it and make it a better place.
4. Free the emotions.
Emotions are a natural response to conflict and tragedy. Whether anger, sadness, or frustration, allow yourself to feel these emotions. Release them in a safe and private space. It’s a crucial step in the healing process, and this enables you to move forward with a clearer mind.
5. Clear your mind.
In times of crisis, our minds often seek connections between current events and past occurrences. While some connections may be accurate, it’s essential to avoid making hasty assumptions. Solutions are rarely as straightforward as we’d like them to be, and staying open-minded is key to recognizing possible solutions.
6. Assume you know nothing about anything.
Curiosity is a valuable tool in the quest for peace and resolution. Solutions may not come solely from experts but from ordinary people who know how to love, listen, forgive, guide, empower, and lead. Embrace your inner curiosity and be open to new ideas and perspectives.
7. Listen with your third ear.
If you’re an employer, manager, or have any influence in your workplace, recognize the significant impact you can have on the lives of your employees or co-workers. Compassionately listening to their concerns and addressing their hurts can foster a more peaceful and harmonious work environment. I wrote DIY Conflict Resolution: Seven Choices and Five Actions of the Masters to help those of you who:
- Don’t know where to start
- Are still building their skills
- Want to master conflict resolution