It can be challenging and frustrating when someone you love believes a person who lies, but this doesn’t have to end the relationship.
This conflict can be resolved, and your relationship with this person can be transformed, with a little:
- self-analysis
- willingness to listen
- focus on what matters most to you in the relationship
In this three-video mini-course, we address:
- The Seven Choices that help you reconnect with your more powerful self
- The Five Actions that help you reconnect with your loved one, your common interests, and the bond you want to feel
- Why your thoughts about a third person doesn’t have much impact on the relationship with your loved one–unless you let them
Make the Seven Choices
- Forgive yourself
- Acknowledge yourself
- Forgive the world (and your loved one)
- Free the emotions
- Clear your mind
- Assume nothing
- Listen with your third ear (your heart)
Take the Five Actions
- Define the conflict succinctly
- Identify the interests of all affected parties in the conflict
- Play with the possibilities for resolution
- Create the future with a specific, measurable action plan
- Stay on PARR: plan, act, revise, and repeat until you get the result you want–or something better!
Work Through the Five Actions Again
Consider the conflict between you and the person you think is a liar. These kinds of conflict might be more about how we think the world should work than whether the third person is a liar. More importantly, this attachment probably isn’t going to help us have the relationships we want with the people we love. Focus your energy where it matters most.
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